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Set Up For Wedding Registry Tips

Many  like to get the task of buying the couple’s gift out of the way as soon as possible- especially those living overseas, are particularly busy, or whom might want to spoil you with a naughty extra gift(!). This means that you’ll need to begin putting together you registry list early on. If you’re having an engagement party or bridal shower, try to have at least a few items specified a month beforehand. This list doesn’t need to be at all comprehensive- many, if fact, prefer to add and edit as they go. If this is your sort of style, do make sure that there’s a wide disparity in price range for the gifts listed, so as not to make your guests feel financially pressured.

A long list won’t look self indulgent to your guests- in fact, it gives your guests flexibility and room to play around with your potential gifts. You should include at least as many items as there are guests, to show that there’s no significant time or financial pressure to buy your gifts. That being said, don’t include items for the sake of bulking up the list- this will simply mean time wasted returning the gifts. If worst comes to worst, your guests simply won’t buy the items you’ve specified. And who doesnt love a surprise now and again?

All in the Details

When including items on the registry, be sure to be specific about which item you’re referring to. To play it safe, it’s worth including:

  • The brand name
  • The model number or name
  • The colour
  • The size
  • The quantity required
  • And if necessary, where it can be found

However if you aren’t too fussed on the brand or model you can help the guests by being a little more descriptive. Instead of putting ‘toaster’ why not put ‘toaster – 4 slice’. This’ll allow your guests to insert a bit of their own personality within the parameters you’ve set, allow them to pay exactly what they’d like for it, and you’ll be more likely to think of the gift- giver whenever you use the item.

Make a Personal Appearance

Organising your wedding registry is incredibly convenient, and today the most common method of putting your list together. Be sure, however, to visit the shop at which you’re registered in person, and have an inspection of the store’ s goods. Look closely at the quality, craftmanship, and if all copies of the one piece are consistent. Physically checking the items may influence adding some pieces on to your list that you previously disregarded, or even taking some items that you’re not satisfied with off.

Get Flexible

Keep an eye the wares you’ve chosen. If you find that they’ve been sold out or discontinued, replace them with a similar item, or register for the original item elsewhere.

Where to Set Up Camp

Try to pick out two to three stores that have a wide variety of items you love. A great idea is to include at least one department store, so that your friends and family will be able to access one of the stores irrespective of where they are in the country. Department stores often also have advanced online systems, so even if they don’t live in the country, they should be able to hop online and buy the selected as easily.

Another great idea is to set up a registry at a specialty shop, such as an antiques store. If they don’t have a registry system in place, try speaking to the manager. More shops than not are willing and able to accommodate your needs, and it never hurts to enquire.

For Those Lucky Few Who Have It Made

If, however, you’re pretty much set for all your homeware needs (as increasingly, couples are living together and setting up house before they’re married), there are several alternatives.

  •  A honeymoon registry. Many online websites let you itemise honeymoon costs and rebrand them as ‘potential gifts- part of your airfare, tourist activites, a night in a deluxe hotel- you name it!
  •  A charity registry. Pick one or a few charities close to you and your partner’s hearts. A great option for the couple who has everything.
  • A homebuyer’s registry. Like the honeymoon registry, you can divide up itsems needed to create or decorate your dream home. A great way to ensure price disparity, as installing a new cat flap, for example, will cost far less than a new window. 
  • A foodie registry. Have you got a miniture foodie snob inside you, dying to get out and experimental, but lack the funds? Well, you’ve just been introduced to that snob’s lifesaver. 
  • A local lifestyle registry. This is perfect for the couple who’d like to get out and experience more day to day culture- where that includes learning a new language, taking a cooking course, or whatever else strikes your fancy. 
  • A wishing well. Although it’s still considered taboo to ask outright for money, a wishing well is a perfectly acceptable way to ask for gift donations. Usually, an elaborate box in the shape of a wishing well is placed, and cheques or cash are placed into it. This can be done either anonymously, or one may include an envelope with a card in addition to the money. 

Making Use Of the Grapevine

Modern wedding etiquette discourages one from including their registry details on one’s invitations, but it is an increasingly common trend to include this information anyway. The Emily Post approved method, however, is to simply spread the information via word of mouth. Use your family and closest friends to pass on this information (somewhat) discreetly to the rest of your guests. If someone asks you outright where you’re registered, feel free to tell them!

The Basics of Wedding Registries

As per the wedding registry’s rich history, the bride’s family would contribute a dowry of homemaking items (linens, china, and silverware) for a groom’s family’s piece of land. Today, registries can be created at one or multiple stores, can be managed online, and can even be dedicated to one specific theme, such as the newlyweds’ honeymoon. Here are some tips to help you make the most of your wedding registry.

The Perks of a Wedding Registry

  • The newlyweds get what they want/need – the couple can rest easy knowing they will receive at least some of what they’ve suggested. The core advantage of using a registry is that it allows for the exact item and quantity to be displayed for all. Guests will see when all necessary gifts in a certain category have been bought, and choose accordingly.
  • It showcases the couple’s style – perhaps a guest, maybe an extended family member, hasn’t seen the couple in years. A registry is a quick way of expressing who the couple is, and what they desire. Even those not buying from the registry will have an easier time discovering items fit for the couple’s style.
  • It saves time for guests – not everyone has the time to create a hand-crafted wonder for the newlyweds, and lots of guests will have multiple weddings to attend during wedding season. A registry, in its simplest form, is a list of gifts for guests to grab, wrap, and deliver.
  • It’s optional – guests can choose the tea towels to match your kitchen décor, or give you that heirloom quilt they’ve been working on for months. The registry is a suggestion, not a requirement.
  • Prevents double-gifting – save traveling guests from hauling, or non-attending guests from shipping large, expensive items that have already been bought by other guests.

Registry Guidelines

There’s no one right item to put on your registry, but there are certainly guidelines in helping your wedding gifting experience run smoothly. Below are some simple ways to ask for what you want, without any unnecessary stress!

  • Plan and present the registry early – start by speaking with your spouse-to-be and create an as-you-go list. Then, decide which stores to register with, and create your official registry. Then, include your registry information on all wedding-related stationary including save-the-dates and invitations, and your website if you’ve got one.
  • Make sure guests know it’s optional – a simple way to diffuse the “I have to buy WHAT? From WHERE?” issue is to inform all guests that the registry is optional. These are suggested gifts that you selected but are not guaranteed.
  • Provide both larger and smaller ticket items – being mindful of the guests’ budgets is vital. Make sure you have gifts of various price points in your registry. I personally love to buy lots of less expensive items on the list, some items not on the list, and then personalize the wrapping.
  • Include some traditional items – even if you are a modern couple with a registry full of camping gear or tech-savvy gadgets, including some traditional items like fine dinnerware, bed linens, and cooking accessories will pay homage to the dowry-style registries of the past, and acknowledge older or less-contemporary guests.
  • Choose around three stores – most big box stores will have everything you need and then some, and choosing a small number will save you from confusion. On the flip side, choosing a variety of stores should ensure that no matter what the guests’ budget, they can participate in buying a gift from the registry. Consider the ways in which guests can purchase and deliver items, such as in store, online, or by phone.
  •  Update the registry – have some items in various price ranges hidden on your registry until right before the wedding. When you see that guests are purchasing gifts, “replenish” the list so that later-buyers have more options to choose from!
  • When in doubt, ask for gift cards – It is considered almost vulgar to ask for money right-out, so don’t do it! Instead, choose some restaurants or stores and ask for gift cards!

Some may claim the registry to be tacky or too old fashioned for a young couple to use, but with the number of registry gift options available, you’ll be well on your way to a perfectly balanced registry in no time at all.

Trends in Wedding Registries

  • Honeymoon Registry – lots of couples these days have already been living comfortably together, and don’t need homeware- related gifts. Certain online registries even let you itemise your honeymoon registry so guests can contribute for your hotel stay, airfare, and newlywed experiences like surfing lessons or romantic dinners.
  • Homebuyers Registry – similar to the honeymoon registry; couples looking to save for a new house, but not ask for money right out, can assign monetary amounts to different aspects of their new home. A few dollars for a welcome mat, a few hundred for a window, and so on and so forth.
  • Local Lifestyle Registry – always wanted to learn a foreign language but never had the spare cash to do it? A local lifestyle registry can help with some unique newlywed experiences. Go on a wine tasting tour, learn how to play an instrument, or enjoy other local attractions with your new spouse!
  • Foodie Registry – delicious gourmet food for free! This registry is dedicated to the experimental eaters who want a taste of the best things in life.
  • Charity Registry – for the benevolent couple, using a portion or all of your registry gift funds for a charitable donation is certainly a welcomed option.

Don’t Forget the Thank You Cards!

Save your wedding invitation address list, and if choosing an online registry, make sure there is a clearly-defined method to identify who purchased which item or experience. You will want to send personalised, handwritten thank you cards within 3 months of your wedding date at the latest to each person who presented a gift. Having everything on file will save you the headache of tracking down addresses. Now start thinking of what kind of registry fits your future.

How to Getting Fuzz Free

There should be a disclaimer with hair removal techniques, stating that they don’t permanently remove hair, but rather permanently reduce it. Two of the most popular and effective methods are laser and IPL – Intense Pulse Light. They’re often regarded as the same procedure, and while they both use energy to disrupt hair growth, they are different treatments.

– Laser uses one wavelength of light that’s extremely concentrated, and treatment is slower because the light source is highly targeted.

– IPL uses the full spectrum and delivers a wider range of wavelengths to the skin. Treatment is quicker because the scattered light covers a larger area.

How Does It Work?

Both processes send intense light energy down the hair follicle. This light converts to heat, which targets the melanin (or colour) in the follicle and this prevents hair growth. Your hair also grows in cycles, but not the same cycle, so when you have laser or IPL, only the hair in the active growth stage is targeted. For this reason you need more than one session to treat a single area.

Who Can Have Laser or IPL?

Not everyone is a good candidate and it depends on hair colour and skin type. Dark hair is the easiest to treat as it has the most pigmentation and so absorbs the most light. Medium coloured hair is more challenging but light, grey or red hair is almost impossible as there is little or no pigmentation, and without light, the follicle can’t be destroyed. Skin tone works in the opposite way, so a light skin is better than a medium toned skin, which in turn is better than a dark skin. Because laser picks up the contrast between hair and skin pigment, the ideal candidate has light skin and dark, course hair. Of course there have been improvements in technology, which allow most people to have treatments with reasonable success.

People who should not consider laser or IPL without first getting medical consent are:
– Anyone hypersensitive to light
– People who are epileptic or diabetic
– A person on photosensitizing medication or antibiotics
– Pregnant women
– Someone with herpes 1 & 2

Is it Painful?

Pain is subjective and so it depends on the individual’s threshold, but it’s often compared to the feeling of having someone snap an elastic band on your skin. Most patients easily tolerate the discomfort.

Is it Safe?

Both treatments are considered safe when done by a professional, in a regulated environment, but it can be dangerous for some people, or leave lasting side effects. The complication is that skin also has melanin, so dark skin is more likely to absorb laser light which could leave blisters or burns. A trained technician should analyse your skin and hair, and create a personal treatment plan to avoid any skin damage. Reschedule if you have spotty, broken, irritated or sunburnt skin, and avoid going over areas with tattoos or permanent makeup as the laser can alter the colours.

What’s the Process?

Find a reputable specialist and get medical approval if needed. For six weeks before your first session you need to avoid the sun and any self-tan products, and stop all waxing, plucking and electrolysis. A tanned skin makes hair removal less effective and it can lead to complications, while you need the hair root to be present to successfully obliterate it! During your session the technician will shave the area to be treated before using the laser or IPL. With each treatment your hair growth is reduced, but in between your sessions it’s recommended (your fiancé will thank us!) to shave. Most people will need a touch up 1-4 times a year to deal with those few resistant, stray hairs.

Is it Cost Effective?

You pay per session, so it depends on the size of the area being treated and how stubborn your hair is. Both techniques are initially expensive, but after your treatment is complete, you’ll no longer spend money on razors, wax or depilatory creams or spend hours in a salon or plucking rogue hairs in front of a mirror.

When Should I Start?

Brides looking at permanent hair reduction need to start the process up to a year before getting married. This is because you need to wait 4-6 weeks between each treatment, and you need on average 6-8 sessions. Some people see results after two, but others need as many as 12, it depends on the individual and how your hair responds. The ideal time to start is during winter, when your skin is pale and it’s easier to avoid the sun. The most important thing is to give yourself enough time to complete the process long before your wedding day.