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Tips for Reducing Wedding Stress

Let’s be honest: organising a wedding can, at times, be overwhelmingly stressful. We tend to think of weddings as a singularly fantastic experience; ending, of course, with the dreamboat, horse, sunset, and of course, hair (and cleavage) to rival any Disney cartoon. So when we’re in the thick of the planning process and reality doesn’t even approximate our expectations, it’s easy to feel incredulous, overcome and completely defeated by this process. So, how in the world are we supposed to deal with this? The trick, my lovelies, is of course to administer some much needed stress relief regularly and consistently. We’ve come up with a fantastic list of how to not only come out of this thing alive- but even enjoy each step of the process, without exhausting the world’s supply of chocolate!

Every couple experiences wedding stress and these suggestions will help you deal with it more effectively.

  • Take a long bath by candlelight and soak stress away. Add 1-2 drops of essential oil for some well deserved aromatherapy. Alternatively, Radox is fabulous for tired, achy muscles, and bath bombs are just the ticket to help you feel pampered in a matter of seconds.
  • Sit down and read or watch a movie. Take a break from wedding plans if you are feeling stressed out. A break will help you clear your mind and return to the task fresh and more focused.
  • Get artsy. Whether this means creating an oil-painting masterpiece, colouring with pencils, or even trying out new looks with your makeup, this is a fantastic stress reliever. Engaging the creative side of your brain will allow you to simultaneously zone out and concentrate in a refreshing, different way than you do when making wedding plans. In other words, it creates the space to mentally detatch and get away from stressful planning- related thoughts.
  • Turn on your radio and dance. Naked. But keep your curtains drawn.
  • If you feel like you could just scream, do it- into a pillow. Yell, swear, and do what you’ve got to do to get your frustrations out! Bonus: nobody’s feelings get hurt.
  • Laugh. Laughter helps to come to grips with how little the thing you’re worrying about matters in the grand scheme of things. Revel in how ridiculous wedding planning and stress can get, and think of how this’ll make for a great story down the road.
  • Cry. Sometimes, you just need to get it all out. If (as strange as this sounds), you feel you’d really benefit from a good old sob- fest, but arent able to muster up those first few tears, put on something that’ll help the cause, so to speak. Sad music, movies, and books are great go- tos. One of the most fundamental truths about the relationship between our physiological, emotional and intellectual selves is that crying is just about guaranteed to make you feel better.
  • Do something romantic for your fiancé or something nice for someone else. In a study by nonprofit leader and author Allan Luks, he terms this stress relief the ‘helper’s high’, and maintains that it is one of the fastest and longest lasting natural endorphin (the chemical your brain releases to make you feel great) you can trigger. This can be as simple as sharing your umbrella with a stranger, leaving a kind anonymous note to be found, or surprising a friend with flowers.
  • Get your game face on. Video games, that is. Zone out for a few hours to recharge your batteries.
  • Find a blog you like. It could be based on humour, fashion, travel, DIY, whatever! Get the giggles or get inspired.
  • Take a vacation or road-trip with your fiancé. Spend time together and remember the reason you’re getting married. This also helps your relationship grow stronger.
  • Endorphin releasing exercise! Hit the gym, the road, or a nature trail. Bring a friend to chat with or spend some time in solitude.
  • On a related note, make some time for some Afternoon Delight (or anytime, really). Sex is not only fun, but also sends a wave of endorphins through both you and your partner. Additionally, some self- love has the same effects.
  • Get outside and enjoy the outdoors. Whether you have a ride on a swing, build a snowman, or just potter around in the garden, this will give you a new appreciation for the simpler things and give you some perspective.
  • Sleep. It sounds simple, but few of us get enough sleep. As a result, we end up feeling tired and listless, grouchy and overwhelmed. Sleep can help with your mood, energy and focus.
  • Get all your suppliers’ service agreements in writing, in the form of a standard contract. Spell out exactly what you want and don’t want when you make the bookings. Don’t wait until the wedding day to make major changes. Having your details in writing will give you some peace of mind, and stop you going over and over the internal checklists you’ve created.

Pre Wedding on Beauty Prep

unduhan-40Six months prior to the wedding is the ideal time to begin focusing on overall health and well-being. Your appearance reflects the state of your body, and getting bogged down in wedding planning stress can backfire. Instead, the key is to practice healthy beauty habits with an eye toward overall health and well-being.

  • If you want to lose weight prior to your wedding, now is the time to start doing it. Crash diets can make you miserable on your wedding day, so stick to a healthy, long-term weight-loss plan instead. Your local gym is a great spot to find a personal trainer, and numerous websites are available to help you track your goals.
  • Start taking natural supplements to help keep your hair, skin, and nails healthy. This ensures that, no matter what style you go for, you’ll have smooth nails, shiny hair, and glowing skin.
  • Consider starting an exercise routine even if you don’t want to lose weight. Exercise can help you beat wedding planning stress and gives you an opportunity to make new friends. Yoga, Pilates, dance and aerobics classes are all excellent options.
  • If you want to try a new cut and color, now is the time to do it. Hair grows, on average, between 1/2 and 1 inch a month, so avoid haircuts that require you to grow out your hair more than a few inches before the big day.
  • Now is the time to break any habits that wreck your look. If you’re a smoker, quit now so that you can enjoy your wedding day smoke-free (and get the inevitable crankiness that comes with it out of the way).
  • Organise a consultation with your dermatologist if you have any skincare concerns. Now is the time to get laser treatments or have dark spots removed.

3 Months Before the Wedding

Now is the time to nail down all the vital details of your wedding day and to do a few test runs to ensure everything will work out as you hope. If something goes wrong, you still have plenty of time to fix it before you say, “I do.”

  • If you’re planning to use a makeup artist, find the artist, plan your look, and in the coming weeks, schedule a makeup test run.
  • Choose your photographer and, if you’re having engagement photos taken, do your makeup the way you plan to do it on the wedding day. This gives you the chance to see what you look like in photos and correct anything you don’t like, as well as keeping your wedding look consistent.
  • Start a healthy skincare routine. Vitamin E can help your skin look youthful, and is a must if you have dry skin. Stick to a few basic products such as a gentle cleansing wash, toner, and moisturizer. If you have oily skin, try an oil-free moisturizer. Exfoliate your skin once a week to get rid of dead skin cells and eliminate dullness in your complexion.
  • Get a facial. You’ll get another one right before your wedding day, but your three-month facial is a test run. If you have a bad reaction, then you know to steer clear of facials prior to the big day!

    1 Month Before the Wedding

The countdown has begun! A month before the wedding, you’ll have to be careful about scheduling. If you get your hair colored, make sure that you schedule your appointment no more than two weeks before the wedding. If there’s anything you’re itching to try, such as a spray tan, try it now so you know if it will work before the wedding.

  • Have your teeth whitened, either by a professional or using an at-home kit. There’s no substitute for glistening white teeth in wedding photos!
  • Steer clear of any new skincare regimens. By now, you’ve perfected your skincare routine, so the key is to stick with what works rather than be taken by the latest gimmick. It can take weeks to reverse the effects of an allergic reaction or peely skin created by a bad product, so don’t take the risk!
  • If you’re interested in microdermabrasion and other involved facial treatments, now is the time to have them done- with plenty of recovery time.

1 Week Before the Wedding

You’re almost there! The key now is to stick with what’s working and do your last-minute beauty ablutions. Now is not the time for dramatic changes or last-minute crash diets. Instead, take some time for yourself and enjoy the final countdown to your wedding.

  • Confirm the final details of your makeup routine with your makeup artist, and gather any supplies you’ll need to take with you on the big day.
  • Have any facial hair removal services, including brow waxing, done a few days before the wedding. This gives your skin time to heal but doesn’t allow hair time to grow back.
  • Consider getting eyelash extensions for lush eyelashes sans mascara.
  • Get a spray tan if you want to glow on your wedding day.
  • Have your nails and toenails done. Gel manicures and pedicures last longer, and will ensure your nails look stunning through the honeymoon.
  • Stay hydrated. A parched body means parched, dry skin.

Ward off breakouts by putting a salicylic acid solution on any zits. Keep your makeup minimal this week to avoid clogging pores. If you develop a truly awful zit, call a dermatologist. He may be able to inject cortisone to reduce the size of the pimple.

Shape for Your Wedding

Every bride wants to look her absolute best on her big day. When you look good, you feel good, and your confidence and happiness are of course the most important factors on your wedding day. So often, this means starting out on a new diet/ exercise regimen. If you’re anything like me, you know three things about dieting:

1. The process itself can get pretty  boring and a teensy bit hellish

2. It always takes WAY longer than you predict to see results

3. It is totally worth feeling ultimately fit, healthy, and confident

So, lets talk shaping-up methods:

  • Managing your diet- obtain all the right nutrients and reduce unnecessary calories.
  • Cardiovascular activities- to exercise your heart.
  • Resistance Training- to burn fat and tone muscles.
  • Getting enough rest and recovery time after workouts- to allow your body to adjust and heal, and therefore make the changes you want.

     

    Diet

You can eat what you like, as long as youre going to burn it off, right? Well, it’s not quite  that simple.  Its generally accepted within the world of nutrition that weight loss comprises of 80% diet, and only 20% exercise. Seems strange, but is true. This is often due to our overestimation of the amount of calories we’re actually burning and the fact that actual nutrition (as opposed to strict calorie counting) has a huge effect on how our body reacts to the calories ingested. The vast majority of women, for example, know that eating 100 calories of veg is still advised above 100 calories of doughnut.

The wisdom of hardcore weight loss blogs seems to reaffirm this: “abs are made in the kitchen, not the gym”, and “you can’t out-exercise a bad diet”.  So you should consequently aim not only to cut portion sizes, but to eat healthily as well. As any nutritionist will tell you, depriving your body of sufficient calories can actually kick it into ‘starvation mode’, where the body believes it’s being starved, and in response holds on to the calories you do consume, which can trigger extra fat storage. Eating anything below 1,200 calories a day is considered to be dangerous. And remember that how many calories you need depends on your age, size and current eating habits.

Often, we tend to eat poorly simply because we don’t really know what, and in what quantities, we should be eating. To take the guesswork out of your diet, its always a great idea to consult a nutritionist or dietician- they’ll be able to formulate an eating plan for you which will take into account what you like and don’t like as well as incorporating the necessary dietary components to complement your exercise program.

Weight Loss Services

The weight-loss industry offers a variety of services with different approaches to weight-loss. Some offer classes and information about diet and exercise, while others deliver pre-prepared meals to your home. A structured service will take into account all of your nutritional requirements and do all the ‘calorie counting’ for you, whilst (hopefully) keeping the food delish. This is a great solution for time-poor, stressed out brides caught up in their wedding-planning process.  But before signing up, consider the long-term effects of these diets- once you reach your goal weight, how well- equipped will you be to make all your food choices for yourself? Some services bridge this gap with built- in lessons or guides, which is great as it also functions as an educational course to serve you for the rest of your life. But be extremely wary of those services who do not offer such a program- it can be even more confusing to try and match your foods to the diet you received on the weight loss service’s plan.

If, for whatever reason, you choose to ‘go it alone’, there are some great free resources to make use of:

– the myfitnesspal app tracks your calories (both in food and exercise), and has a database with thousands of different food items listed (otherwise, plenty of similar apps will perform the same service)

– pinterest.com has thousands of links to healthy food recipes, diet tips and tricks, as well as motivating quotes, images, ideas etc (use the in-site search engine to find the particulars of what you’re looking for).

– tumblr.com also has thousands of weight-loss and fitness- centred blogs and sites. Again, these are easiest to find when you have a particular subject to investigate, such as ‘1500 calorie diet plan’, or ‘fitspo’ (short for ‘fitspiration’). These sites are often embedded with a chain of other similar sites, so its really just a matter of finding one quality site that can refer you to others. (I personally quite like ‘undressedskeleton.tumblr.com’ for inventive recipes, for example)

We’ve also compiled a list of some simple tweaks you can make to improve your diet and calorie intake, as well as some ever- useful ‘don’ts’’:

Little Diet Changes for a Huge Impact

Radical changes to your diet are not only hard on your body, but mentally difficult to sustain. If you usually eat unhealthily, you will find it almost impossible to ‘change your ways’ overnight. So resolve to make some key changes that you can incorporate into your current diet, for example:

  • Switch to ‘low-fat’ groceries – particularly dairy products. Many of the products you currently buy will also be available in a ‘diet’ or ‘light’ version.
  • Stick to whole natural foods – Fruits, Veges, whole grain breads and cereals
  • Stay away from anything with preservatives – these chemicals are unatural to the body and if cannot be broken down, will be stored in fat cells.
  • Stop drinking soft drinks and sweetened fruit juices and drink water or sugar-free diet drinks instead. Sugary drinks contain empty calories and do nothing to fill you up.
  • Aim to eat more at the beginning of the day and less at night. This means a full, nutritious breakfast and less snacking after dinner.
  • Change the way you prepare meals – this means less frying and roasting and more grilling, steaming and boiling.
  • Snack on fresh fruit, vegetables and nuts instead of biscuits, chips, (or my personal favourite, those little japanese peanuts that are coated in crunchy deliciousness. GOOD GOD) etc.
  • Consider walking or cycling to work and take the stairs instead of the lift!
  • Try to incorporate high-fibre foods into your diet. Fibre helps ‘fill you up’ and will stop you snacking on junk food throughout the day.
  • Reduce your alcohol intake.

Perfect Wedding Lingerie

Just like choosing your wedding gown, lingerie should reflect your personality, your intimate relationship with your soon-to-be-spouse, and will require some time and planning to get it right.  Start looking at wedding night lingerie at least two weeks prior to the wedding to ensure you look and feel your absolute sexiest on your special night.

Double Up

Consider two different lingerie options – one to wear while donning your dress, and another for after dress-drop.  This way, you can focus on practicality and comfort in the gown, then goddess-worthy seduction when the dress comes off.

Colour

Traditionally, bridal lingerie came in white, ivory, or cream.  For your wedding lingerie, stick with white or nude for the ceremony, and enjoy playing with color for your wedding night!  Pastel colors are perfect for the sweet, conservative, or traditional-style bride, but red, black, navy, and other bold color options offer vibrant, seductive brides a powerful punch.

Styles and Details

Bridal lingerie buying can be tricky without knowledge of common lingerie styles and details.  Here’s a quick guide to common pieces you’ll find in your hunt for flawless undergarments.

Bra:

It is as it seems, and yet very different.  Bras in the bridal lingerie category vary quite a bit from traditional, supportive bras.  Lingerie bras may have ruffled chiffon, colorful ribbons and bows, or even half cups for a stunning reveal.

Teddy:

Providing more body coverage than a bra, but less support, a teddy is a semi-loose fitting sleeveless tank top, which stops at the waist or hip.  Unless you are going for shock-effect, the teddy is worn with some style of bottoms.

Babydoll:

Similar to the teddy, the babydoll adds additional coverage by extending over, and just covering the bride’s bottom, and is usually worn with knickers.  Demure brides may choose a satin or silk, but bold brides’ babydolls can be found in see-through fabrics like lace or mesh.

Chemise:

For the most coverage, the chemise stays secure with spaghetti straps or thicker tank-top straps, starts at the top of the bosom and sits at the mid-thigh.  It can be worn with or without a bra beneath and provides more of a modest, but still sexy, “nightie” look, thus offering minimal support.

Corsets and Bustiers:

Both corsets and bustiers lace, button, and snap closed to emphasize a woman’s small waist.  Traditionally corsets were work in the Victorian era to create a seamless line from waist to bosom, without any focus (or room) for the bosom.  As the name implies, bustiers also work to enhance a bride’s curves by squeezing in the waist, but create extra enhancement by pushing up the bosom.

Nowadays these two pieces are often interchangeable, providing extra cinching to the waist, and extra boost to the bust.  Corsets and bustiers can be found in almost any color or style, with a variety of closure options as mentioned above and may or may not contain shaping boning.  The perfect fit for this body-hugging top may be found by ordering a custom piece online, using your exact measurements.

Boy shorts:

As the name implies, these tight “female boxers,” hug curves, cover your bum, and are comfortable and fun.  Consider boy shorts with added lace, mesh, ruffles or peepholes to create a more seductive ensemble.• Thong: The thong is the be-all, end-all of sexy underwear.  Without any coverage of your rear, and minimal coverage in the front, these knickers beg for attention.  Some women find thongs most uncomfortable, so seek out seamless or cotton thongs for extra comfort.

Garter Belt:

Not to be confused with the garter belt that rests on the bride’s thigh and is thrown to the next eligible bachelor, the garter belt wraps around the upper hips, above the knickers, and attaches to the tops of sexy stockings with clips. Garter belts can be found in a variety of colors and styles, but all serve the purpose of holding up stockings, and adding a little extra for your spouse-to-be to see, only once the wedding dress is removed.